Funny that Bridgette just wrote about silver linings. I’ve had a silver lining rolling around my head that I was planning to mention.
I have 3 siblings. My oldest lives on the other side of the county, about 30 minutes away. She got married when I was in 5th grade. She’s got her family and her life, and we don’t get to see each other quite as often as you would think, since we really aren’t that far apart.
My brother lives in San Diego. He left home when I was in 6th or 7th grade. He was always the life of our sibling group, with hilarious games and activities. I’m sad to admit, in many ways, he kind of dropped out of my life. But again, he had a life and family in San Diego, and I was busy in Boone.
After he left, Desna and I were alone. We have rather different personalities, and once we were both in high school, we really went out of the way to ignore each other.
After Desna went to college, that all changed. I missed her, which was totally unexpected. I visited her on campus, and we had fun. And we slowly started appreciating each other’s skills and personalities.
Desna moved to Raleigh, Colorado, Arizona, and then Vermont. Since she’s a teacher, she tries to visit every summer for a few weeks. Thanks to covid, I haven’t seen her in over 2 years. (That is NOT a silver lining.)
2 1/2 years ago, we had a “sibling reunion”, and all met up in Las Vegas for some fun. It was great, hanging out with them, going to some shows and concerts, eating too much… and it made me realize how very wonderful my family is, and I wish we could get together more often.
So my Covid silver lining is “family game night.” Early on during covid, a friend mentioned that she would zoom with her family across the country, so they could keep in touch. I suggested that to my family, and we have been doing it every other week ever since. Playing games is optional – we usually just end up talking for a few hours. It’s wonderful to visit with them, see what’s going on in their lives, and see their beautiful faces.
In many ways, I feel closer to them than I have in years – definitely with my brother. And I love that.
If this vaccine works and things get better for travel, we are starting plans for our next sibling reunion, and a one year delay to celebrate mom’s 85th birthday. I can’t wait!
And I hope we continue staying in touch for a very long time.