Procrastination!

Why do people procrastinate? I think people procrastinate because they’re afraid of failing at the tasks that they need to complete. They may have a bigger fear of failure, which makes them more likely to procrastinate. I rarely procrastinate because MY FEAR OF FAILURE is so big I make sure I get everyone done in time. Of course I married a constant procrastinator who helped me make a baby procrastinator. While both children will procrastinate, my 15 year old is really struggling with it in high school.

My teenager is exceptionally bright, intelligent and has a high IQ. She works hard on every subject and spends a lot of time making sure she is doing everything correctly. However, if anything in her schedule changes, she tends to panic and shut down. Recently she went from an A+ to a 41 in her AP HISTORY course because FIRST Robotics meetings had begun. She has an A average in all of other other classes except Biology which is holding steady to a B. So, she’s an apt student although she gets sidetracked and then is not sure how to get out of it.

Luckily, because it is the COVID pandemic – her teachers have been very understanding about the psychological and emotional stress all the students are under. While on Spring Break she has the opportunity to catch up in History. The two week break is over Sunday night and she is STILL NOT FINISHED. It is not because she has too much work, it is because she is procrastinating. This TED talk describes her perfectly:

Look, it’s a boy version of my daughter – Tim Urban!

She gets it honest from her father but I just don’t know what to do to help her sometimes and it is frustrating. I know that engineers, bankers, artists, photographers, students and many other people procrastinate. I know that functional people procrastinate and still are successful. However, seeing her so stressed hurts my heart. I am hoping she will grow out of it but I have a deep sinking feeling this may be a personality trait that she has. Maybe she is only suffering from the short term procrastination and not the long term procrastination because she does get things done. Maybe Tim is right that we are all procrastinators and some just do it more than others. Speaking of which, I need to mop my floors. I’ll get it done. . .maybe later.

Published by bridgey1967

53. Funny. Non complacent. Loving but not a sucker.

4 thoughts on “Procrastination!

  1. I love that video. He is so spot on, and describes me quite well. I’m pretty sure the only reason I’ve managed to write as much as I have for this blog is because it falls under “easy and fun.” Clean the back bedroom or write a blog post? well, duh, let’s write!
    I work in a boring, dead end job, with a boss who can be a dick. Why? Because it’s so much work to contemplate finding another job. And the monkey convinces me to just wait. Now I’m so close to retirement age, the monkey convinces me to just ride it out a few more years.
    It’s a real problem. I wish I could offer your nerdlette some useful advice. Maybe just knowing the monkey is there could help – sometimes the reasonable decision maker can make a stand. Maybe offering the monkey a choice between 2 reasonable options – like cleaning the room or writing a blog post. At least they are both more productive than lying in bed re-reading The Dragonriders of Pern series.

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  2. I showed that exact same video to my students last semester!
    In HS and college I was not a procrastinator.

    Now I am. Maybe for me it’s the lack of goals and the drive to get there….. “there” which is undefined.
    There seems to be no particular reason to get it done. Until a deadline approaches that is. My job is both overwhelming and underwhelming. The passion and zeal are gone. The drudgery of endless hours are not.

    My former MIL (love her) once said that if you want something done, ask a busy person. At the time it didn’t make sense, but as I matured I realized she was right. When I wasn’t a procrastinator, I was very busy, very scheduled. If I was competing in skating, I knew I had to use my time wisely and get things done when a moment presented itself. I would study while the zamboni was on the ice. When I was a new teacher with a 1.5 hour commute each way, I was also the head athletic trainer, took and taught a college math Ed course, and volunteered for the state proficiency development task force in math. All while undergoing infertility treatments. The more I added to my plate the more efficient I became. It did eventually become a bit much. And then the district laid off thirty teachers. Robbed of my schedule, I floundered and became depressed. I returned to college and began to reschedule myself to have structure.

    Honestly, I tend to get depressed when I am not scheduled. And that manifests as procrastination.

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  3. JoAnne finally broke me of scheduling every waking minute in my planner. She showed up to my dorm and said that everything was taking too much time away from her and told me I needed to be more flexible. So, I did as I was told. I still keep the family schedule but I always leave windows open. I love your sister for showing me a healthier way of living.

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