Father’s Day

I always thought that there were too many holidays in the US. Then I found out with the recent passing of Juneteenth (huzzah!) we really only had 11 HOLIDAYS. All the other ones are observances or “holidays” specific to the state. Only the Federal government has the ability to designate true holidays where people are given a day off with pay. I think my confusion came from the fact that we called all the observances “holidays” when they truly were not. So to correct myself, the US has a TON of observances, state “holidays” on top of the 11 federal holidays.

  • New Year’s Day
  • Martin Luther King, Jr. Birthday
  • Washington’s Birthday (Presidents Day)
  • Memorial Day
  • Juneteenth 
  • Independence Day (4th of July)
  • Labor Day
  • “Columbus Day” (also observed as Indigenous Peoples Day)
  • Veterans Day
  • Thanksgiving Day
  • Christmas Day

Father’s Day is a day we observe to pay homage and honor the fathers in our lives. In the US we celebrate fatherhood and the influence of fathers in society. In 1910 it was introduced and did not really take off for awhile. There was of course the disdain of many that it was yet another attempt at commercialization as Mother’s Day causes a flurry of purchasing gifts and cards. There were some attempts to turn the observance into an official federal holiday but it never passed. I would like to add that originally, the holiday was spelled Fathers’ Day but like so many other things the misspelling Father’s Day was used when a bill was issued to try to establish it as a holiday and it stuck. Oh, woe is me that I have to look at that apostrophe error every year LOL.

South Korea, like many countries, had a Mothers’ Day but not a Fathers’ Day so in 1973 they combined the two and had Parents’ Day to convey thanks to both parents at the same time. It is not a public holiday and no one gets a day off from work but on many people do observe the day by reaching out to parents and thanking them for all they do.

My beloved Daddy passed away in November 2019 so to honor him I light a candle in a crystal hurricane candle holder and burn it all day and night until I retire for bed. I light this candle for most observances when I miss him like Father’s Day and other holidays and of course his birthday and death anniversary. I’m not religious or spiritual so it is certainly odd that I chose a candle but it is soothing to see that flickering light bouncing off the walls. I kiss his photo and look through all the photos I have of him and shed tears and remind myself how incredibly lucky I was to have his influence. It brings tears to my eyes at first but by the end of the day I feel better for having thought of him.

Here are some photos of my sweet, handsome, kind, patient Daddy – Bob.

Published by bridgey1967

Loyal. Funny. Sensitive. Loving. Creative. Survivor.

4 thoughts on “Father’s Day

  1. “I’m not religious or spiritual so it is certainly odd that I chose a candle but it is soothing to see that flickering light bouncing off the walls”

    I am not religious either, and I was raised in a house where a lit candle was grounds for life imprisonment/death penalty (my father was always convinced we’d burn the house down and still is). So no candles. And I don’t believe as my mother did in heaven or hell. But I do believe in an afterlife. Nothing spiritual or religious in nature. I believe your afterlife starts while you are still alive and lives on as long as it can.

    I keep a notebook, specifically for this. It is my true belief that the afterlife occurs in the hearts and minds that you touched while alive. When you’re alive, cards, flowers, hugs all abound when the thought pops up. Once you have passed these people miss you and think about you. Specific birds or butterflies are not you. Those memories, that feeling of loss from ones life, that feeling of love that washes over those that knew you; that is your afterlife. So I keep a notebook and when I think of her, I write her a note. It can be long if that’s what I feel or a simple “I love you” but it always seems to start with “Dear Mommy”. But in my heart and mind, enshrined in a leather bound notebook, is my mother’s afterlife. Sometimes I start to think of someone else that has passed, but I do not keep notebooks for them. They just make it into my letter to her. Sometimes the language that comes out sounds as though I believe in a religious/spiritual afterlife such as “keep Uncle Art close and take care of him” but the thought in my head is I remember him and I want to remember them both in this moment. But if you read it you would think I believed they were both in heaven walking the rainbow bridge with every pet that has passed. But it’s just giving myself the permission to remember any of the many people who passed through my life making a major impact and my brain wants to remember in that moment.

    So no, it is not strange you burn a candle. It is soothing and gives you a day to truly remember him. It’s a beautiful tradition that brings you peace and that’s all he ever wanted in life. So you are fulfilling both his wish and your need. And THAT is where his afterlife is: in you.

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