My guy and I went on a cruise shortly after we started dating. The cruise itself was unremarkable. It was long enough ago that they were still doing the dining thing where you ended up sitting with a bunch of people you don’t know – not my favorite, but I can deal with it.
Anyway, the one thing I remember about that cruise, is the first night at supper, all the people were pretending like they care about the other people, and we were introducing ourselves, and chatting about “what job we do” because in our messed up society, that’s important.
My guy commented that he was a massage therapist. There was a moment of silence, as they all contemplated that. And then, as one, all the women at the table looked at me and said “oh.” And I just nodded.
Very few people actually work at a job they love. They do it to earn money. But there are a few people out there that have found the right career. My guy is one of them. He loves giving massages, and he’s very skilled at it. He loves to rub people. (We joke about that a lot.)
Since he actually loves his career, the joy he gets from rubbing people, of course, extends to me. I get a foot rub every night. And I mean a good foot rub, EVERY night. And most nights he also gives me a shoulder/neck rub, to work out all those kinks that I seem to create every day. And I also get a full, 90 minute massage at least every other week. He would do it more often if I asked.
I know how lucky I am. I can’t imagine how my body would feel, in a general way, if I didn’t have him working on my problem areas all the time. I feel sorry for people who aren’t dating a massage therapist.
Here is what I can tell you – you probably think that a massage is a treat, a luxury that you don’t need, or can’t afford. And I’m going to tell you – you’re wrong.
Between the everyday stress of life, and especially our careers (the ones that most people don’t love) and then all the little things that add up to pain in the body – a massage is really more of a necessity. As you get older, and hurt your back just by getting out of bed, or limp along with plantar fasciitis, or sleep on your neck wrong, or slump at your computer, or stay up all night completing a project, you just deal with the pain, because that’s just the way things are.
But it’s not the way it has to be. Go out, and find a GOOD massage therapist. One that listens to you, and works on the places that really hurts. Make time to see him or her regularly.
It’s not a splurge. It’s a necessity. It will make your life better.