I know that is a hella depressing title but let me explain. I’m not trying to be funny and I’m not trying to be macabre. I am simply being honest and REAL. I am in my 50s and I am realizing that the people we love are older as well and that means more deaths in our circle. It is a little shocking to the system but inevitable, I reckon.
In the past two weeks a good friend of mine lost her neighbor in a tragic car accident. She was my age. She just found love again and had been married to her second husband for just a year. She was a happy person who smiled easily. This happened a week before they were heading to Pennsylvania to see a matriarch who was battling cancer for the second time. It is stage IV. So they had a family reunion .
Then, I found out a friend of mine was in ICU. She is a happy go lucky person who is fun to be around. Our friendship is casual and easy and we met because her best friends’ kids and my kids hang out together. We found playdates were more fun when she and I could hang out too. She is expected to make a full recovery but it was scary to know how close to death she was.
Also, I am close to a darling Polish woman whose oldest child and my youngest child are inseparable. Visiting this family is always a delight and we do a lot together. Even through COVID we took extraordinary precautions so we could still see each other for walks and outdoor visitations. Her sweet husband’s father died a few days ago. While he was older there was no indication that he was going to die anytime soon so it was a complete shock. My heart breaks for them as they try to figure our funeral arrangements amid COVID.
On top of that, my husband’s paternal grandfather is also hospitalized. We do not know his prognosis but know that he had serious surgery and because he is in his 80s with some underlying health conditions that it is a precarious situation for him. The relationships this man had with his family is complicated to say the least so while the story unfolds I hold my breath and hope for the best.
None of these problems are in any way related to COVID so death does not give a damn what is happening. When it is your time, it is your time. As I still weep for my beloved father who left us in 2019 I am saddened for everyone who is experiencing grief. I try to be supportive to everyone and respect their wishes for solitude, company, help or whatever else they might need. I know everyone dies but it sure does suck for those of us left behind.