“The Greatest Thing You’ll Ever Learn

is just to love and be loved in return.” That is a quote from one of my favorite musical movies MOULIN ROUGE. I think quotes like that usually reference love of two adults for each other that is romantic. That is all well and good and exciting but for me, it resonates as a love between two human beings PERIOD.

If you are someone that has always been loved (congratulations by the way) you may not look at love the same way I do. While I had love in my life my mother was incapable of showing me love or affection for various reasons. I do not hate her. I pity her. I am sure it was lonely and scary for her to live that way. Luckily, I had other people in my life that showed me what love was.

My Korean grandmother (mom’s stepmother) treated me like a precious gem. I don’t want to say flower because they are delicate and she did not raise me that way, LOL. There was not the typical “spoiling” Americans might think of. No candies, pony or extravagant gifts and parties. She spoiled me with attention and love. She took the time to share wisdom and showed me the beauty and wonders of nature. Harmony would let me watch her cook and let me help in ways that was not dangerous. I LOVED collecting herbs and ingredients from her tiny garden.

My Daddy also taught me about loving. Isn’t it ironic that the two people whom I feel loved me the MOST was not blood related? I think some people place too high of a value on blood relation. Blood may be thicker than water but it is not as binding as acceptance. While Daddy was my stepfather by law, he picked me when I was 9 years old and never once made me feel like the OTHER daughter. Hence, my sister and I are very close.

Just when I thought I had more than enough love – after all, I married had two wonderful daughters, my best friends are in my life and so much more – I found someone else who loves me. My mother had a son before me that none of us knew about. A couple from California adopted him as an infant and we found each other through 23 and me. So voila! I have an older brother!

Recently I visited him in California and met his friends and family. It was a fantastic trip and I am exhausted from all the emotion and fun. He surfs! He fishes! He boats! He’s a realtor! He is never still. LOL So here I am at age 54 bonding with a half brother I knew nothing about. What a gift! So to me, this quote is very true. I may never be rich but the greatest thing I have learned is just to love and be loved in return.

My badass surfing bro!

Published by bridgey1967

Loyal. Funny. Sensitive. Loving. Creative. Survivor.

One thought on ““The Greatest Thing You’ll Ever Learn

  1. I knew exactly where you title quote came from. You can never have too much love in your life! So glad you keep finding more!!


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